I recently read an article in October edition of Redbook Magazine titled, ” Get Ready to Crush on your Husband.” The title sold me. I was in!
It talked about things that you can do to revisit that spark that you felt for your spouse in the beginning. It made me think back to our beginning and reminisce about the things that started my crush in the first place. Granted, when my crush started I was going thru puberty, but regardless there were certain things that made my heart race.
I remember, way back then, being crazy about his hugs. My husband gives great hugs. They are not half-assed hugs. They are both arms wrapped around, body close, head tucked close to mine, tight squeeze kind of hugs. They used to make my knees go weak.
I remember crushing on him because of his sense of humor. He was always silly. He knew how to bring a lightness to a room. He was always joking. He would do things that would make me shrink with embarrassment and laugh at the same time.
I remember having a crush because of his energy. My husband is the kind of guy that can walk into a room and people look. He draws people to him. He always has. He can bring a power and buzz to a room and make it shine brighter without even trying.
I definitely had a crush over his looks. He was a hottie, at least in my eyes, way back in our Freshman year in high school. I remember thinking, Wow! How did a guy like him, pick a girl like me? I felt so lucky.
What happens is, thru the years, you lose sight of all of those things that made you have a crush on the man to begin with. Not only that, but many of the things that you used to find attractive, now can be completely ignored or can make you absolutely crazy.
How often to I pay attention to his hugs? Do find his silliness attractive? Do I laugh at what I used to find adorably funny. Do I notice when he walks into the room?
The article talks about how even after so many years together, you can still get that feeling of butterflies at strange and unexpected moments. The point is, when that happens, make sure you pay attention.
Since reading the article, I have thought a lot about the whole crush thing. I realized that I get this feeling all of the time these days. It can be from taking in a good deep breath of how good he smells, to watching him on the floor playing with our son, to taking in a certain way he looks at me with his incredible blue eyes, or watching him walk toward me across a room with his goofy little grin.
It seems that the key to keeping the butterflies is to not only notice the moments he makes my heart beat a little faster, but to make sure I don’t let it pass without acting on it, or at the very least sharing my feeling with hubby. He should know that he can still make me feel like a teenager with crush.
Just after I read the article, my husband went to run an errand. He took the Jeep. The Jeep is our favorite car. In the summer, he takes the top and the doors off of it. I was watching thru the window as he hopped in. He put on his shades, turned up the music and sped out of the driveway. All I could think was, “Damn, that Jeep looks good on him.” He looked so sexy driving away in that car. He looked young and free and so hot! And, I made sure to tell him so when he got back.
Today’s Lesson In Improving My Marriage: Yeah, I still got it! I still have a crush on my husband. The key is to continue to work to keep it that way.
I am curious, what makes you crush on your spouse?
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