I want to supercede this post by letting you know that I am not trying to be tawdry in any way, but I do feel that sex is a vital part of a healthy marriage. So I can’t help but feel the need to share with you how date night went for me this week. In one word, Unforgettable!
My husband is a big fan of Tim Ferriss, author of the “4 Hour Workweek”. He talks about it all the time and asked for the extended audiobook for Christmas. So when he told me that Tim Ferriss had come out with a new book called the “The 4 Hour Body”, I knew I needed to get it for him.
I came across it a few weeks ago while shopping. It is enormous! It would cause some serious damage if you were hit over the head with it. I thought about putting it back on the shelf and walking away. I mean, who wants to read that many pages on exercise and nutrition? No thanks! But, before I put it back I read the front cover and table of contents. There is a whole chapter about improving sex. I thought, “Okay this could be interesting.” So I bought it for the hubby.
Since the night I brought it home, a couple of weeks ago, Hubby has been reading it every day. He is completely hooked.
Tim Ferriss is an interesting man. He is a master at self experimentation. His book has very detailed descriptions on how to get the body that you desire with tried and true testimony from Tim himself. It is fascinating really.
My husband wanted me to read a particular chapter that he found really interesting on using kettlebells in your exercise routine. I had never even heard of a kettlebell, but I enjoyed the chapter enough to flip through the rest of the book to look at the other chapter titles.
There is a whole chapter on improving sex complete with very detailed pictures, and that night just so happened to be date night. Perfect!
So our date night consisted of my husband reading, out loud to me, that particular chapter. But it wasn’t enough just to read it, we needed to test the theories.
Without going into too much detail, let me just say we had a wonderful date night. It was sexy, sweet, and highly surprising. Unlike anything we have ever done before.
Don’t get me wrong, our sex life is awesome! I am often shocked that after all these years I can still feel the passion that I do for my husband. Neither of us feel lacking in any way. However, what I learned from reading this book, and trying out the methods, is that there is always room for improvement. How wonderful a feeling to realize that we love each other enough to want to get better at loving each other. To try new positions, to talk about it, to make myself unbelievably vulnerable. It all served to bring us closer.
In fact the next day, all I could think about was what happened the night before. A little unusual for me.
I also learned that if Tim Ferriss was right about his sex theories, maybe I should pay attention to the other chapters. I better run out and get those kettlebells, right now!
I strongly recommend to all couples, to try something new in the bedroom (or somewhere different for a change.) Try a new position, a new technique, get a book, talk, get comfortable saying what you like and don’t like, and improve your skills. Sex should never be boring. It should always have an element of connection, passion and newness.
If you are needing a little spark in the bedroom or you are just feeling a little adventurous, I recommend picking up a copy of this book and head right to the chapter on improving sex.
Practice makes perfect! Have fun.
Today’s lesson in improving my marriage: Practice, practice, practice!