Here is what I know for sure. Life is a constant lesson in progress. This week I want to focus on a touchy subject, weight. My weight to be specific.
As many people I know, (now that I think about it, all of the people I know) weight is a constant issue and focus. At any given time, I am either feeling bad about my weight, trying to lose pregnancy weight (for the last 4 years), trying to maintain weight, battling lack of motivation, or I am trying to suppress a severe lack of desire to excercise.
This year I put back on the 8 lbs I lost last year. To some that will sound like a lot, to some very little. For me, it is a lot. Really, it is not even about the scale. I am not so much into focusing on reaching a certain number. What matters to me is how I feel.
How do I feel lately? Not so great. I have let some things go this year, and it shows.
So here is the question, what does my weight have to do with my marriage? Well, a lot.
I have the sweetest husband. He is full of compliments. Always tells me how beautiful I am or how sexy he thinks I am. He seems to desire me regardless of what the scale shows. Baffling sometimes, to be honest. How he can think my ass is sexy when I think of it as my worst features is beyond me. I am grateful nonetheless.
Much to his dismay, no matter how much he compliments me, it doesn’t change how I feel about myself. My confidence comes from within and even though I value what he says, so much, I know that what is most important is how I feel about myself.
Earlier this year. I felt good. I was exercising regularly, eating well (not dieting, just making good choices). I felt good in my clothes and when I looked in the mirror. All of this equates to confidence which equates to a much sexier wife. There is nothing hotter to my husband than when I feel good about myself. I am more playful. I don’t try to hide certain parts of my body as I hustle, naked, to the shower. I flaunt and flirt.
Not sexy, is when I try to walk backwards so as not to show my backside, or when I sweetly negate every complement my husband throws my way.
It is not a number. It is a feeling.
I believe in the saying, “love the skin you’re in.” But, I also believe that in order to love that skin, you must take care of it and do what makes you feel good about yourself. For me, I feel much more confident when I eat right and move.
I think that we all know that place where we feel our best. Whether it is 10 lbs heavier, 30 lbs lighter, a size 12, fitting back into those pre-pregnancy jeans, or right where you are at. Wherever that is, is where we want to be.
So why do most of us have such a hard time getting to that place? I don’t know. I think it is a conspiracy from the fast food places to make their french fries completely irresistible and by Dove chocolate to cleverly sweet talk its way into my pantry.
It is time to find my way back to the girl who feels good about her body. That puts priority on what makes her feel more confident in herself. That wants to dance naked in the daylight and strut confidently by my husband’s adoring eyes, bare butt and all.
There will always be things that I don’t particularly care for about my body. We all have those body parts that we would seriously consider trading in, if given the chance. But it is my body, for better or worse. So I might as well make the best of it.
I want my sexy back. My husband will thank me for it. Not because I am lighter or fitter, but because I am more confident in my self.
I have always worked well with taking things one step at a time. Small changes equate to big changes if you stick to them over long periods of time. Step one for me is to move! Just exercising for 20 – 30 minutes a day a few days a week does a world of difference for my confidence. My mood is better and I feel sexier and more confident in myself.
Time to strap on those tennis shoes and get this body moving again! Any type of movement, at this point will do.
I will report back and let you know how it is going.
In the meantime, what do you do to take care of your body? How does your confidence affect your marriage?
Marriage Lesson for Today – Take care of your body. Your confidence and marriage will thank you for it.